I’ve been meaning to sit down for days, weeks, to write up a blog post since I posted Thomas’s birth story. I have so many ideas running through my mind. Well, the days get away from me. If we aren’t running from this activity or to that place, we’re hanging out at home, and I’m taking the quiet times I get to actually be quiet. Watch TV. Listen to a podcast. Take a bath. July is the month of ME.
But anyway, I wanted to get some thoughts out, and here I am. Taking a moment from my “busy” schedule to update you all on how we’re doing since baby arrived!
I was going to add photos, but I’m being lazy, so if you want some daily Penny and Thomas, visit me on Instagram.
Brandon: He’s good! Doing tests, flying airplanes, and eager to get back on some missions to far off lands. In fact, he was supposed to go somewhere cool today, but that got cancelled. Now he’s cuddling Thomas on the couch and studying. Can we talk about about my amazing baby whispered, by the way? Brandon practically just looks at Thomas and that baby falls asleep. Thomas always fusses on me to settle down, but Brandon? Out like a light. Daddy’s boy.
Chantal: Oh me. I could write a whole post about me 😉 In fact, I have plans to, detailing how this postpartum recovery is vastly different from the last one. This has been amazing compared to Penny’s birth. Then again, I didn’t get major surgery this time. I did have some tearing, and my pelvic floor felt like it had been punched 100 times… but otherwise, wow. I was up. I was moving. I was on low-doses of pain meds (read: punched 100 times. I’m not a super hero!) The biggest change has been emotionally and mentally, I’m so clear and good and, dare I say, happy?
Silly to think I can’t be happy, but I was really worried, given my experience last time. It was so hard last time. So hard. Hard for days and weeks and months and years. I didn’t want to have another baby. This time? I could have another, or ten more, if this is what recovery is.
I’m keeping busy, ready to get back to working out and a work schedule, but taking it as easy as I can this month as I recover. There will always be August for those things.
Penny: She loves her brother. LOVES. Loves loves loves. Which is amazing and surprising. Her being such a Mama’s Girl, I expected a bit of issues, but it really has been seamless. I’m shocked every day. She wants to hug him and kiss him all the time, to a point where I have to stop her from touching him because “He just fell asleep! Don’t touch!” and she says, “But how about one little kiss?” She had some adjustment, due to sleep deprivation, and missing us terribly during the birthing weekend. She also gets kind of mad if I can’t cuddle because I’m tending to baby. Otherwise, she’s the best. Having a baby with a three and a half year old has been a good decision.
She’s her usual, energetic self, of course. Emotional and full of attitude, like any good threenager. She feels like she’s grown ten feet and a hundred pounds overnight, now that I’m tending to a newborn. Oh, and she will be starting school next month. We signed her up for an amazing preschool out in the city nearby, an English-based Korean school, and I think it’ll be great for her. More on that once she starts.
Thomas: Oh Thomas, my Thomas. I can’t stop looking at him, into his deep brown eyes, because I can’t believe he was inside of me. Mostly because I think I perfected the art of cloning… he looks exactly like his daddy. Did any of me get in there? I was just the surrogate, he got all his genetics from Brandon. He’s a pretty chill baby usually! Cries when he’s hungry or sleepy. Loves to sleep on our chests. Doesn’t care to be swaddled. He’s a fighter, too, during diaper changes or otherwise. I wouldn’t be surprised if he starts crawling early… but hey, more of this next week at his one month update. (Whaaat? One month so soon?!)
The Family: We’re good. Honest to God, we’re good. Transitioning to a family of four has been a breeze so far. I keep expecting something crazy to happen… and maybe it will. But three plus weeks in, and we’ve adjusted well. Brandon and I are working well balancing the two kids. Penny is adjusting. I’m feeling good. Brandon is good. What else can I say? It’s all good good good!
We’re keeping busy here, living life. We’re planning a trip back to the States in the coming months, but that’s dependent on a whole lot of things. We’re looking forward to finding out our next duty station (always looking to the future, and we won’t know until next summer!) Is summer already halfway over?
Anyway, I’m trying to get to blogging more, but no promises. I do hope to get some posts out soon on the following subjects. Keep an eye out!
Thomas Henry: One Month
Postpartum recovery: Then & Now
How to side-car a crib
What we’re doing differently this time around
Thomas: What’s in a name?