I’ve felt this passion growing inside me since I got pregnant and started exploring natural birth. I’ve been going back and forth about the best course of action to take with this passion, and after some recent events, I’ve started exploring the idea of becoming a doula.
A month ago if you had asked me, I would have said no, not me, I’d never want to be a doula. Birth doesn’t scare me, physically anyway, but it’s the emotional side that I’m worried about. I’ve never been completely comforting with others. You know, touchy-feely, motherly, etc. It probably is just the way I was raised. I wasn’t sure if I could be a doula without that emotional side ramped up, I didn’t want someone to feel cheated because I couldn’t give them everything they needed.
But then a friend of mine had a birth experience that just makes me cringe. She is completely fine with how everything went, but I can see the holes in it, the lack of education. Her forced induction became an emergency cesarean. I know first hand what a cesarean is like and I don’t wish that on anyone, if they can avoid it. (S/N: I know some are completely necessary. I’m thankful that we have cesareans for those women)
Anyway, I came to the realization that I wanted to educate women. I want to be there to tell them all their options, and help them make the right decision for their birth, whether that means they go all-natural at home or hospital, have an epidural, or have that necessary cesarean.
What I lack in emotional skills I can make up with knowledge, enthusiasm and passion.
While taking the Bradley Method course during pregnancy, I knew that I wanted to become a Bradley teacher. However, one of the requirements is to have used the method in your own birth. I, unfortunately, don’t meet that requirement.
At our next duty station, wherever it may be, with the support of my husband and family, I’m going to start the process of becoming a birth doula. I might even look into becoming a La Leche League leader as well, since I’m passionate about breastfeeding. Either way, I’m going to channel my passions into something so I can help others! And I feel good about it.